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Sunday, July 07, 2019

“First responders, medics carry burden when deaths occur” by Heather Mongilio

“First responders, medics carry burden when deaths occur” by Jeremy Arias, Heather Mongilio, The Frederick News Post, June 30, 2019

For police officers [fire and police chaplains] and doctors alike, telling family members a loved one died is part of the job.

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New officers are taught to avoid using euphemisms or phrases like "your family member is in a better place," or "your loved one has moved on," preferring instead to use more direct language, while remaining as sympathetic as possible.

Frederick police send two officers on death notifications, preferably a male and a female, along with one of several volunteer chaplains the department rotates between to assist.

Read much more: https://www.baltimoresun.com/news/crime/bs-md-maryland-first-responders-death-burden-20190630-story.html#nws=true

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Kevin Dayhoff for Westminster Common Council

Westminster Municipal election May 14, 2019

Authority Caroline Babylon, Treasurer.

Carroll County Times: www.tinyurl.com/KED-CCT

Baltimore Sun Carroll Eagle: http://tinyurl.com/KED-Sun

Westminster Patch: https://patch.com/users/kevin-e-dayhoff

Facebook Dayhoff for Westminster: https://www.facebook.com/DayhoffforWestminster/

Facebook: Kevin Earl Dayhoff: https://www.facebook.com/kevindayhoff

Dayhoff for Westminster: www.kevindayhoff.info

Dayhoff Soundtrack: www.kevindayhoff.net

Dayhoff Carroll: www.kevindayhoff.org

Dayhoff Art: http://www.kevindayhoff.com/

Kevin Dayhoff Time Flies: https://kevindayhoff.wordpress.com/

“First responders, medics carry burden when deaths occur” by Heather Mongilio

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Kevin Dayhoff for Westminster Common Council

Westminster Municipal election May 14, 2019

Authority Caroline Babylon, Treasurer.

Carroll County Times: www.tinyurl.com/KED-CCT

Baltimore Sun Carroll Eagle: http://tinyurl.com/KED-Sun

Westminster Patch: https://patch.com/users/kevin-e-dayhoff

Facebook Dayhoff for Westminster: https://www.facebook.com/DayhoffforWestminster/

Facebook: Kevin Earl Dayhoff: https://www.facebook.com/kevindayhoff

Dayhoff for Westminster: www.kevindayhoff.info

Dayhoff Soundtrack: www.kevindayhoff.net

Dayhoff Carroll: www.kevindayhoff.org

Dayhoff Art: http://www.kevindayhoff.com/

Kevin Dayhoff Time Flies: https://kevindayhoff.wordpress.com/

“First responders, medics carry burden when deaths occur” by Heather Mongilio

“First responders, medics carry burden when deaths occur” by Jeremy Arias, Heather Mongilio, The Frederick News Post, June 30, 2019

For police officers [fire and police chaplains] and doctors alike, telling family members a loved one died is part of the job.

[…]

New officers are taught to avoid using euphemisms or phrases like "your family member is in a better place," or "your loved one has moved on," preferring instead to use more direct language, while remaining as sympathetic as possible.

Frederick police send two officers on death notifications, preferably a male and a female, along with one of several volunteer chaplains the department rotates between to assist.

Read much more: https://www.baltimoresun.com/news/crime/bs-md-maryland-first-responders-death-burden-20190630-story.html#nws=true

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Kevin Dayhoff for Westminster Common Council

Westminster Municipal election May 14, 2019

Authority Caroline Babylon, Treasurer.

Carroll County Times: www.tinyurl.com/KED-CCT

Baltimore Sun Carroll Eagle: http://tinyurl.com/KED-Sun

Westminster Patch: https://patch.com/users/kevin-e-dayhoff

Facebook Dayhoff for Westminster: https://www.facebook.com/DayhoffforWestminster/

Facebook: Kevin Earl Dayhoff: https://www.facebook.com/kevindayhoff

Dayhoff for Westminster: www.kevindayhoff.info

Dayhoff Soundtrack: www.kevindayhoff.net

Dayhoff Carroll: www.kevindayhoff.org

Dayhoff Art: http://www.kevindayhoff.com/

Kevin Dayhoff Time Flies: https://kevindayhoff.wordpress.com/

Tuesday, June 09, 2015

We are honored to have Westminster Police Chief Jeff Spaulding give a welcome on behalf of the city to the class on Practical Chaplaincy at the Carroll County Non-profit Center.

We are honored to have Westminster Police Chief Jeff Spaulding
give a welcome on behalf of the city to the class on Practical Chaplaincy
at the Carroll County Non-profit Center. June 9, 2015

http://kevindayhoffwestgov-net.blogspot.com/2015/06/we-are-honored-to-have-westminster.html

Chaplaincy, Fire CC Depts 03 Westminster Chaplain, MD State Troopers Assoc Lodge # 20 Chaplain

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Westminster Police Chief Jeff Spaulding speaks to class on Practical Chaplaincy at the Carroll County Non-profit Center http://kevindayhoffwestgov-net.blogspot.com/2015/06/we-are-honored-to-have-westminster.html

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Kevin Dayhoff Soundtrack: http://kevindayhoff.blogspot.com/ = http://www.kevindayhoff.net/ Kevin Dayhoff Art: http://kevindayhoffart.blogspot.com/ or http://kevindayhoffart.com/ = http://www.kevindayhoff.com/ Kevin Dayhoff Westminster: http://kevindayhoffwestgov-net.blogspot.com/ or http://www.westgov.net/ = www.kevindayhoff.org Twitter: https://twitter.com/kevindayhoff Twitpic: http://twitpic.com/photos/kevindayhoff Kevin Dayhoff's The New Bedford Herald: http://kbetrue.livejournal.com/ = www.newbedfordherald.net Explore Carroll: www.explorecarroll.com The Tentacle: www.thetentacle.com

We are honored to have Westminster Police Chief Jeff Spaulding give a welcome on behalf of the city to the class on Practical Chaplaincy at the Carroll County Non-profit Center.

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Monday, June 08, 2015

Class in Practical Chaplaincy at Carroll County Non-profit Center. Mr. Bear and the heart of Mrs. Owl helping me with the help of some vanilla animal crackers

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Thursday, May 28, 2015

Memorial Day prayer at the Carroll County Vietnam Memorial

Memorial Day in Westminster - From left, Jan Battaglini, Glenn Bair, Sally Adams and Doug Battaglini, all of Westminster, gather during a prayer at the Carroll County Vietnam Veterans Memorial in Westminster Monday, May 25, 2015. (DYLAN SLAGLE/CARROLL COUNTY TIMES /May 25, 2015) - See more at: http://www.carrollcountytimes.com/news/local/ph-cc-memorial-day-parade-052615-20150526,0,4595380.story

Not pictured, behind Doug Battaglini was Kevin E. Dayhoff and LTC. Ronald Hollingsworth, US Army (Ret.)

Memorial Day prayer at the Carroll County Vietnam Memorial

May 25, 2015 http://kevindayhoffwestgov-net.blogspot.com/2015/05/memorial-day-prayer-at-carroll-county.html

As has been our routine dating back to the 1990s, a number of us gather at the Carroll County Vietnam Memorial at Willis and Court Streets in Westminster across the street from the historic Carroll County Courthouse.

The Carroll County Maryland Vietnam Memorial Park was dedicated on May 28, 1990. There are 19 names on the memorial. Of the 19 names – 17 killed in action, one missing in action and a former prisoner of war - some we knew. Some we didn’t. But they were all someone’s son or father or brother or uncle – or a cherished childhood friend. Their faces have been silent for many years, but they all have a story to tell.

Over 2.7 million Americans served in the Vietnam War. The average age was 19. Of that number, 300,000 were wounded in action, and 75,000 were disabled. It has been estimated that almost 5 million military personnel and civilians, from all sides, lost their life in the Vietnam War. Of the 58,200 names listed on the Vietnam Memorial Wall in Washington, 1,046 are Marylanders who made the ultimate sacrifice in the Vietnam War.

This year our prayer was:

Put on the whole armor of God

May 25, 2015 Memorial Day CC Vietnam Memorial prayer

By Kevin E. Dayhoff, Westminster Fire Engine and Hose Co. No. 1 and Maryland Troopers Association Lodge #20 Chaplain.

The Lord be with you. Heavenly Father, Hear our prayer

We are brought here together through your common call to service to our family, community and country. We ask that God's healing and loving presence be with all of us today on Memorial Day who may have unspoken needs.

We have gathered here in your name as we have been called to be a people of prayer. We praise you because you are our creator, our redeemer and our provider.

We especially approach you today with humility and age in the shadow of the Carroll County Vietnam Memorial as we pay our respects to our fallen sons of Carroll.

Bless the souls of those brave American heroes from Carroll County on the black granite monument at the Carroll County Vietnam Memorial who died in Vietnam. We lift up and place in your loving arms the eighteen fallen sons of Carroll, individually by name and together as a family. We pray that they all be remembered by our children and our children’s children.

We pray that we may (Ephesians 6:11,) “Put on the whole armor of God that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil,” and be armed with the power of the Spirit, so that we may continue to make the Gospel understandable to those of us who after many years still have unanswered questions…

In the name of all we've learned by the Vietnam experience, God grant us a lasting love of peace and our fellow humans.

Refresh our hearts with peace and love as we reconcile the Vietnam experiences with our current lives.

For all those who selflessly put themselves in dangers way to protect others … let us pray to the Lord.

We know the good that comes to those who believe and are called for a greater purpose.

Bless this time together and for the many ways you reveal yourself to us, we gratefully praise you.

Remember those who serve for our public safety and community. Keep them safe as they protect and serve. Allow the Holy Spirit to work in and through us to effect the accomplishment of this prayer. AMEN

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Baltimore Sun Carroll Eagle:

http://www.baltimoresun.com/search/dispatcher.front?Query=Dayhoff&target=adv_article

Carroll County Times: http://www.carrollcountytimes.com/search/dispatcher.front?Query=Kevin+Dayhoff&target=article

Westminster Patch: http://patch.com/users/kevin-e-dayhoff?page=1

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kevindayhoff

Tumblr: Kevin Dayhoff Banana Stems www.kevindayhoff.tumblr.com/
Kevin Dayhoff is an artist - and a columnist for:

Patuxent Publishing Co., The Carroll Eagle: www.explorecarroll.com: http://www.explorecarroll.com/search/?s=Dayhoff&action=GO

Soundtrack: http://kevindayhoff.blogspot.com/ = http://www.kevindayhoff.net/

Kevin Dayhoff Art: http://kevindayhoffart.blogspot.com/ or http://kevindayhoffart.com/ = http://www.kevindayhoff.com/
Kevin Dayhoff Westminster: http://kevindayhoffwestgov-net.blogspot.com/ or http://www.westgov.net/ = www.kevindayhoff.org
Kevin Dayhoff's The New Bedford Herald: http://kbetrue.livejournal.com/ = www.newbedfordherald.net

Smurfs: http://babylonfluckjudd.blogspot.com/
Google profile: https://profiles.google.com/kevindayhoff/

E-mail: kevindayhoff(at)gmail.com
My http://www.explorecarroll.com/ columns appear in the copy of the Baltimore Sunday Sun that is distributed in Carroll County: https://subscribe.baltsun.com/Circulation/

See also - Kevin Earl Dayhoff Art www.kevindayhoff.com: Travel, art, artists, authors, books, newspapers, media, writers and writing, journalists and journalism, reporters and reporting, music, culture, opera... Ad maiorem Dei gloriam inque hominum salutem. “Deadline U.S.A.” 1952. Ed Hutcheson: “That's the press, baby. The press! And there's nothing you can do about it. Nothing!” - See more at: http://kevindayhoffart.blogspot.com/#sthash.4HNLwtfd.dpuf

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Saturday, January 04, 2014

Kevin Dayhoff Westminster Patch: Feeling Blue at the holidays – When in hole stop digging. @WestminstrPatch

kdjykjo

Feeling Blue at the holidays – When in hole stop digging.

(Some folks have been in touch looking for this article... Find it on Patch here: http://westminster.patch.com/groups/kevin-e-dayhoffs-blog/p/feeling-blue-at-the-holidays--when-in-hole-stop-digging

Sadly the holidays can also be a difficult time for folks who have suffered a personal loss in recent years. Especially if that personal loss occurred in the past year… Fortunately there are many resources in the community that are available to help

Posted by Kevin E. Dayhoff , December 16, 2013

Kevin Dayhoff Westminster Patch: Feeling Blue at the holidays – When in hole stop digging. http://tinyurl.com/kdjykjo @WestminstrPatch

Westminster Patch by Kevin Dayhoff, November 25, 2013 – December 14, 2013

http://westminster.patch.com/groups/kevin-e-dayhoffs-blog/p/feeling-blue-at-the-holidays--when-in-hole-stop-digging

http://kevindayhoff.blogspot.com/2013/12/kevin-dayhoff-westminster-patch-feeling.html

Labels: Chaplaincy, Dayhoff writing essays, Media Patch, Media Patch Westminster, Medicine Health Death and Dying, Religion - See more at: http://kevindayhoff.blogspot.com/2013/12/kevin-dayhoff-westminster-patch-feeling.html#sthash.bZncMVlo.dpuf

This past week marked the beginning of the Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year holidays. It is a time to celebrate the past year with our friends and family and look forward to new beginnings.

However, sadly the holidays can also be a difficult time for folks who have suffered a personal loss in recent years. Especially if that personal loss occurred in the past year…

This is the time of the year when we when often nostalgically reflect about Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays in the past - when we celebrated with family members, loved-ones, friends and colleagues that are no longer with us.

Fortunately there are many resources in the community that are available to help cope. Although Carroll Hospice has already had a “coping with the holidays” workshop, many local churches have a “Blue Christmas” service including Taylorsville United Methodist Church. (And of course, there is always “Retail Therapy - All signs point to shopping locally in Carroll County this Christmas season.”)

The service at Taylorsville will take place on December 19, 2013 at 7 p.m. at 4356 Ridge Road, Mt Airy, MD 21771.

Pastor Sarah B. Dorrance serves as the pastor at Taylorsville and writes, Blue Christmas “is a time to be celebrating the birth of our Savior even in the midst of changed circumstances that might be hard for us. It is a time to remember that Jesus changes everything, even the hurts and the pains we might be experiencing today, and the birth of our Lord is something special to be celebrated.”

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Kevin Dayhoff is an artist - and a columnist for:

Patuxent Publishing Co., The Carroll Eagle: www.explorecarroll.com: http://www.explorecarroll.com/search/?s=Dayhoff&action=GO
The Tentacle: www.thetentacle.com http://www.thetentacle.com/author.cfm?MyAuthor=41

Westminster Patch: http://westminster.patch.com/search?keywords=Dayhoff

Soundtrack: http://kevindayhoff.blogspot.com/ = http://www.kevindayhoff.net/
Kevin Dayhoff Art: http://kevindayhoffart.blogspot.com/ or http://kevindayhoffart.com/ = http://www.kevindayhoff.com/
Kevin Dayhoff Westminster: http://kevindayhoffwestgov-net.blogspot.com/ or http://www.westgov.net/ = www.kevindayhoff.org

Twitter: https://twitter.com/kevindayhoffTwitpic: http://twitpic.com/photos/kevindayhoff
Kevin Dayhoff's The New Bedford Herald: http://kbetrue.livejournal.com/ = www.newbedfordherald.net

Tumblr: Kevin Dayhoff Banana Stems www.kevindayhoff.tumblr.com/
Smurfs: http://babylonfluckjudd.blogspot.com/
Google profile: https://profiles.google.com/kevindayhoff/

E-mail: kevindayhoff(at)gmail.com
My http://www.explorecarroll.com/ columns appear in the copy of the Baltimore Sunday Sun that is distributed in Carroll County: https://subscribe.baltsun.com/Circulation/
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Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Crossing the Creek, A Practical Guide to the Dying Process

“Crossing the Creek” is written by Michael Homes

http://www.slideshare.net/kevindayhoff/20000904-crossing-creek

I received “Crossing the Creek, A Practical Guide to the Dying Process” on the last day, November 13, 2013, of Bereavement Skills Training at Carroll Hospice.

http://kevindayhoff.blogspot.com/2013/11/crossing-creek-practical-guide-to-dying.html

Carroll Hospice, Chaplaincy, Medicine Health Death and Dying, Religion, Religion grief counseling - See more at: http://kevindayhoff.blogspot.com/2013/11/crossing-creek-practical-guide-to-dying.html#sthash.lxu5bjuN.dpuf

http://www.scribd.com/doc/187206483/%E2%80%9CCrossing-the-Creek%E2%80%9D-is-written-by-Michael-Homes

I recently took a 15-hour class in Bereavement Skills Training at Carroll Hospice, http://www.carrollhospice.org/Bereavement-Skills-Training taught by Kathleen A. Bare, M.S. Bereavement Counselor, Carroll Hospice, 292 Stoner Ave., Westminster, MD 21157.

The topics included an introduction to Carroll Hospice and the services and functions hospice can provide when family members, loved-ones, friends and colleagues are “Crossing the Creek.”

The class touched-upon the medical aspects of the dying experience and advice for caregivers. Class segments included ‘normal grief,’ natural grief responses, children and grief. Complicated grief, suicides, communication skills, rituals, support groups and resources.

On the last day of class, a member of the class distributed a photocopy of the publication, “Crossing the Creek, A Practical Guide to the Dying Process,” which the author, Michael Homes, RN, identifies as “A nurse’s perspective on the medical aspects of the dying experience and advice for caregivers.” My copy of “Crossing the Creek” is branded with a ‘print date’ of September 4, 2000.

According to http://crossingthecreek.com/, the publication is no longer available. Furthermore, the publisher, Damone-Rose Publishing is going out of business. A brief search of the internet did not locate a place where the book could be purchased. This information was accessed on November 25, 2013.

That is a shame because it is a valuable and well accepted plain-language and common sense approach to the dying experience and advice to caregivers…

In his introduction to “Crossing the Creek,” Mr. Holmes writes:

“This guide is intended to provide dying people and their caregivers with a general description of what they can expect to encounter. While understanding does not eliminate the impact of experience, it can: certainly reduce some of the consternation and allay that creeping sense of panic•.

“All transitions have similar key elements. Also, every person experiences, a wide variety of transitions during the course of his/her lifetime. In that sense, there is nothing new in dying process. In fact, each of us develops our own, personal style for dealing with transitions. We tend to stick with that style, whatever it might be, when we face the transition we call death.

“If you would like to know how you will handle your own death, look back upon your life and observe how you have handled all your other transitions. Unless you decide to change your approach, that is how you will die.

While all transitions have similar key elements, this guide deals specifically with the transition of dying. Every person does not experience every sign or symptom described herein, or a person may experience a particular sign or symptom in his/her own unique way. There is room for infinite variation in how any given individual may experience the dying process. At the same time, certain general themes are common to all.

“It is well to remember that all transitions entail some disagreeable or uncomfortable aspects. Dying process is no exception. No reasonable person expects that life will contain no discomforts, yet some espouse the notion that somehow, death will. This is not a reasonable expectation. The dying process has its difficult aspects regardless of one's level of enlightenment.

“Modern medicine has demonstrated a remarkable capacity for mitigating or even eliminating many disagreeable aspects of physical death. At the same time, modern medicine cannot relieve people of responsibility for their own lives. We all prepare for our own death by the manner in which we live our lives. Skilled clinicians can be a great help, but we each bear the ultimate burden of responsibility for how we live and how we die…”

For more information on grief, bereavement, death and dying, or coping with death at the holidays and the various programs offered by Carroll Hospice, contact: Kathleen A. Bare, M.S. Bereavement Counselor, Carroll Hospice, 292 Stoner Ave., Westminster, MD 21157, 410-871-7231, KBare@carrollhospitalcenter.org; or go to: http://www.carrollhospice.org/home.

Kevin Dayhoff is a chaplain with the Westminster Volunteer Fire Department and the Maryland Troopers Association Lodge # 20.

In addition he currently serves on the executive board of the Carroll Co. branch of the NAACP and the church council of Grace Lutheran Church.

In the past, he has taken a number of classes in various aspects of the chaplaincy, including non-violence training, emergency incident command and response, Red Cross disaster response training, and a Federation of Fire Chaplains’ class in the Essentials of Fire Chaplaincy…

http://www.slideshare.net/kevindayhoff/20000904-crossing-creek

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Kevin Dayhoff is an artist - and a columnist for:

Westminster Patch: http://westminster.patch.com/search?keywords=Dayhoff

Monday, November 25, 2013

Why A Fire Chaplain?

http://www.springtwp.com/chaplain.html

Springfield Township, Akron Ohio

“He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love.” --- (SofS 2:4)

Retrieved November 25, 2013

Travis Case, Pastor/Teacher Northgate Baptist Church

I will attempt to answer the question: “What is a Fire Chaplain and what is his/her purpose. First, a Fire Chaplain is not a spokesperson for the Fire Department and he does not get involved in Departmental policies or politics. Neither is a Fire Chaplain there for the purpose of proselytizing converts to his particular church.

A Fire Chaplain's primary focus is on the needs of the Fire Department and whatever situation the Firefighters encounter where the Chaplain may be of service to both the Firefighters and the community the Fire Department serves.

A part of the everyday life of any fire department is the coping with stressful situations that arise from encounters with battling fires and emergency situations. When people fall apart upon discovering they are burned out of their homes, or have lost all their belongings, or worse yet, have lost a loved one, how can Firefighters handle these demands for attention in addition to fighting the fire. Read more: http://www.springtwp.com/chaplain.html

http://kevindayhoffwestgov-net.blogspot.com/2013/11/why-fire-chaplain.html
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Kevin Dayhoff is an artist - and a columnist for:

Westminster Patch: http://westminster.patch.com/search?keywords=Dayhoff