20051019 WE Politics of personal destruction puts limits on future leaders

Politics of personal destruction puts limits on future leaders

A reprint of my October 19th, 2005 Westminster Eagle column:

Politics of personal destruction puts limits on future leaders

By Kevin Dayhoff

10/19/05

In the scalding criticism and politics of personal destruction that passes for contemporary political realism and the social commentary of the day, not a day passes when we don't read scathing criticism of someone who has taken time away from his or her family to try and make our community, county or nation a better place.

One can be sure that this certainly doesn't encourage other good folks to step forward and contribute time for our community.

On an equally disturbing note, I recently read a letter to the editor that criticized Spanish-speaking workers in our community. Ultimately, we are talking about are fellow human beings who have come to this country - just like us - to make a better life for their families and work hard in a foreign land.

In October 1833, in the area we now know as Carroll County, a vote was taken as to whether or not we should form Carroll County. Did you know that the ballots for that vote were printed in German, and English, for all the non-German speaking citizens?

Our Spanish-speaking workers will learn English, just as German-speaking Carroll Countians eventually did. Perhaps we should extend a helping hand, instead of backhanding them.

Many were aghast to read a recent letter to the editor that contained an unkind and unflattering critique of a community leader that had recently passed away. Have we no humanity? Are we so insecure with our beliefs and our feelings that we have to malign the dead in order to promote ourselves?

Recently the mainstream media has begun to run articles about the incredibly flawed reporting that quickly became the accepted "truth" about the response to Hurricane Katrina. When will we start hearing apologies from the newspaper newsrooms and anchors of broadcast news for maligning local, state and national leaders trying to respond to an historic disaster? How can we measure the damage that has been done to all us for reporting hyperbole, exaggeration and rush to judgment? Why would anyone want to assume the difficult roles of leadership in the wake of such treatment?

Any community leader, whether we agree or disagree with his or her ideas, needs to be respected for sticking their head above the crowd and trying to make a difference and contribution. It is important to confine our disagreement to their ideas - and leave the personal attacks out of it.

Selective quotations and trivialities trumping substance in an obvious attempt to distort the facts seem to be the rule of the day. It is always the source of amazement to observe folks who, in the same utterance, plead for understanding and tolerance of their views, then demonize anyone who doesn't agree with them.

A rule among classier community leaders prohibits promoting oneself by personally sniping at someone or a group of individuals who hold a different point of view than yours. It's not only bad form, but smacks of bullying and could wind up hurting your own cause, as you only look like someone with the warmth and humanity of a water moccasin.

Discussion, dialogue and honest disagreement in the pursuit of resolving political, social and economic problems enhance the strength, transformation and stability of a community. Our families and community cannot prosper if individual leaders fail to step forward to lead.

Martin Luther King said it best; "In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends."

The worst thing that can happen to a community is that everybody thinks the same way all the time. It will be catastrophic if potential leaders are unwilling to step out of the comfortable cocoon of their lives to assume a leadership role or proffer a different point of view for fear of the politics of personal destruction.

Kevin Dayhoff writes from Westminster. E-mail him at: kdayhoff@carr.org.

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